"I want, I want, I want..." But that's crazy. And yes, I did just quote One Direction. That's besides the point, though. Women are the first ones to demand independance, but are so quick to jump at the expectations of exactly what they want out of a man. Isn't the whole point of independance to do things... you know... on your own? I think it's selfish to want love and kind gestures out of a man and then roll your eyes when he wants a little something "special" of his own. I mean, I'm not telling you to give in and do whatever your man wants but if you're going to have expectations for him to be ecstatic about your demands, isn't it just common courtesy for you to do the same for him?
It's like girls who say they want a guy to text her good morning and good night, buy her tampons and chocolate when she's on her period, kiss her infront of his friends, and god knows what else... I mean, you're getting what you want but what about him? All he gets is the satisfaction of you being happy, and as great as that is, don't you think he deserves a little bit more?
I just think relationships are about compromise, and it seems that a lot of people my age don't know that before getting into one. He's not always going to be happy just carrying your bags and standing next to you looking pretty. Personally, I think you're supposed to grow in a relationship and not spend any time being in the same place as you were yesterday. I know it sounds crazy, because the majority of women think they only way to satisfy a man is in the bedroom, but that's not true. He might want sweet gestures, too.
How do you wake up one morning and just expect a guy to come along; fulfill your every want and need for him to be good enough? That's unrealistic, and at least if you're going to have those expectations, you can meet each other half way. Give back. The worst thing to be is a girl who wants Prince Charming, but sits on her ass complaining that no one is good enough. I'm sure someone out there - maybe he's not 6 ft. tall with blonde hair and blue eyes - will take care of you if you take care of them.
Honestly, sometimes I just look at peoples miserable relationships (still talking about the people MY age), and all I see is a poor, secretly hopeless romantic boy with this high-strung, materialistic girl... And it kinda makes me sick. They don't deserve someone who thinks they're the best thing they'll ever have, simply by being a trophy wife. Sooner or later he's going to find someone who isn't as far up their own ass as you are and they're going to laugh at the fact that you used him for the sake of fulfilling some delusional fantasy of being swept off your feet.
When you're young, you're dying to know what love feels like, so you make every little thing seem like it's love. But the reality is that when love happens, you won't even know what hit you, and making someone think they feel it while you don't is just a waste of everyone's time. Letting someone give you what you want is not love. To be infatuted is to feel satisfaction of someone satisfying your wants and needs, giving you what you expect from them as opposed to love, which, theoretically I presume to be a feeling you get from simply being in their presence. It's more of an emotional connection than a possesive one. I mean, we all have different definitions of love but somehow I don't think it means taking what you want from someone and then assuming that they're good enough for you to keep.
I mean, let's be real... It gets frustrating watching good guys chase girls who still think love is a feeling you get from recieving cute text messages. If it's all aesthetics right now, that'll be gone later. You'll never be satisfied constantly taking from someone, always saying 'I want' instead of 'I will', and pretending it's good enough.
Sure, you deserve to be satisfied... But is it worth compromising somebody elses happiness?
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