Love is so fiercely passionate that it can destroy you and everyone around you in one single blow. That sounds exaggerated but you won't believe it until you feel it yourself. You go through every set of emotion you could possibly have and then you're in a place where everything is familiar.
Believe it or not, we like change. We love challenges because it means something new. Routine, no matter how cherished, can drive even the most brilliant people insane. And it's no different when it comes to relationships. I'm not saying polygamous relationships are the way to go, but our minds wander some days and we can't help that from happening.
Of course, there's someone better out there. But just like in your current relationship, you'll always have to make compromises. There will never be perfect no matter how hard you try. Our deep rooted desires come out with the wrong people sometimes - but acting upon it doesn't make you a bad person. It just means you're learning. But I must warn you; that will always be a hard lesson to learn.
After watching Tyler Perry's "Temptation: confessions of a marriage counsellor", my heart is hanging by a thread. I don't want to spoil such a brilliant movie so please do yourself a favor and watch it. No matter what situation you are in now, what gender you are, what sexuality you are - there is a lesson to be learned behind that movie. It is not directly applied to any specific individual, but it does define the process of temptation which is something the human body naturally endures.
Temptation is such an open-ended word to me. It can mean so many things. This movie shed light on parts of my life I haven't even discovered. Maybe to you, temptation is the plate of brownies sitting on your kitchen counter, or perhaps it's the man you innocently flirt with at work while your partner isn't around. Temptation on it's own is not wrong - but your decision to act on it based on one instance as opposed to many - is the reason it's so destructive.
We love to be tempted. To push the boundaries of our all-too-familiar reality and discover the pleasure (and pain) that awaits us on the other side. But just like that plate of brownies, we are only able to visualize the good standing right infront of us. It tastes so good after you take your first bite, and then the rest of the brownie begins to taste like guilt. You, however, find yourself unable to put it down. Once you have tasted the product of temptation, it's hard to pull away. Was it the brownie that tempted you? Would you have died without knowing what it tasted like in that instance - or even at all? The problem with us is that we choose wrong over right, not because it's easier, but because we don't know what we're missing out on.
Love, if you're in it long enough, can feel like the same thing. We hide from the monsters under our bed and the skeletons in our closet, but we never run from the demons that possess our minds. I'm not one to say no one should ever succumb to temptation, but rather to be aware of the consequences when you decide to let it consume you.
Because it will. Slowly, discreetly, and intentionally. And when that happens; there's almost never a way out.
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